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How to Deal with Upset Relatives when Cougar Dating

Dating a cougar is often an exciting and adventurous time in a young man’s life. But what happens when relatives and close friends don’t accept an older woman? In many cases, there are legitimate concerns at the heart of this disapproval. However, on many occasions this disapproval is based on social norms and the opinions of others.

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Your family will eventually understand, give them time.

Sugar mummy dating can be a minefield, and dealing with the reactions of parents, siblings and other relatives is just one of the issues you might face as a young man. However, with the right approach, your loved ones could grow to love the older woman in your life.

Demonstrate your Commitment

At first, your relatives may be sceptical about the chances of a successful relationship with a cougar. It’s therefore up to you to prove them wrong. If you simply dump your older lady at the first sign of disapproval, what does that say about your character, or for the respect you hold for your woman.

By standing by your lady, you’re telling everyone that this relationship isn’t just a flash in the pan. Splitting up with a cougar because your family disapproves of her could also stop you from enjoying granny dating in the future — so stay the course.

Introduce Her Slowly

It could take a while for your loved ones to fully accept your cougar, so don’t rush things. The worst thing you can do is announce your love for an older woman on the day your relatives meet her.

Instead, invite her to a family gathering, or ask her to come along to a special family event. Don’t worry if things don’t go well. If your older woman is a decent person, your family will eventually see that — but they might need to meet her a few times to reach that conclusion.

Pro Tip: "The Day"

Arrange the first meeting in a casual, public environment — a coffee shop or cafe is ideal. If things don’t go well, there is safety in numbers!

Avoid Confrontations

If you find that your relationship is causing friction between you and your family, it’s important not to dwell on things. While you might feel frustrated and hurt, an argument with the people you love won’t help things.

If simply raising the issue of your cougar starts an angry confrontation, avoid it completely. Over time, anger and feelings of betrayal fade — especially when relatives get to know the person you’re dating.

Find Common Ground

Simply refusing to accept your family’s point of view won’t help to heal wounds. Imagine a member of your family announced they were in a relationship with someone you strongly disapprove of: how would that make you feel?

Acknowledge the concerns of your relatives, and try to suggest ways of addressing them. For example, you could suggest that you’ll take things slowly. You might decide to give guarantees with regard to not living with your cougar. In many cases, feelings towards an older partner change over time; in the meantime, try to meet your family halfway.

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Age is just a number!

Ask your Family to Disregard Public Perception

You family love you, and they want you to be happy. However, feelings of embarrassment and shame can often cloud the judgment of relatives when there is a cougar on the scene.

The sight of you and your older lady might attract inquisitive stares and glances in the street — something that your older relatives might find difficult to deal with. Try to impress on your family that the opinions of outsiders are irrelevant.

If you’re happy, and your mature lady treats you with love and respect, what other people think should be irrelevant.

Pro Tip: Addressing Concerns

Ask your family why they feel embarrassed about your situation. Address their concerns in an open and honest way, and try to figure out ways to alleviate them.

Give Things Time

You may have already tried to get your family to accept your cougar without success. But don’t worry, as feelings and passions can change over time. In many situations, it is the shock of such a big development that is the issue.

Once the initial surprise has faded, your family will get to know the person… and forget about how old she is.

They say that age is just a number, and that’s absolutely true. As long as your older lady is respectful, loving and fun to be around, the people closest to you will eventually forget about her date of birth.

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