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8 Tips to Getting a Cougar's Number

Thanks to Ashton & Demi and Susan Sarandon in Bull Durhamp, cougars are all the rage and it's a sexual preference that's just growing in popularity. Cougars are not to be discounted -- but if there are so many mature women looking for sex and actually finding partners, why is there so little about what they're actually looking for?

sexy older woman's red lips flirting on the phone
Don't hesitate, she's is interested in sex and she wants you!

The good news is that you don't need a lot of tricks up your sleeve to get her number. No hoop-jumping, like you had to do with your younger ex-girlfriend. Just keep to these 8 tips and you'll be golden!

1. Don't Put All Your Eggs in One Basket

Younger men think that any 80s bar or a lounge with an 80s night is a prime cougar location. And while it's true that cougars love their 80s music (dancing, karaoke, snapping fingers, whatever!) and an 80s night will draw the best of them, that's only one night.

And, what happens the rest of the 6 days? Or what do you do if your local watering hole has cougars...but the kind that feels like desperate sex, not classy mature woman looking for sex?

Don't confine yourself, to just your local spots. If you really want to snag a hot mature woman looking for sex, the first place you should go is virtual: head online.

Looking for cougars online is not only easy but fast. You'll be able to connect right away -- at any time in the day -- and start a conversation. This way, when you're ready to ask for her number, she's more than ready to give it to you.

2. For Her Eyes Only?

Don't make the mistake of thinking that a) you know exactly what the cougar you have your eye on wants and b) that all she's interested in about you is physical attraction.

Cougars are, after all, women and, as women, they're each turned on by very different and specific things. Yes, she may be, like you, completely "in it" only for the sex. But don't self-select and take yourself out of the running just because you think that she's "way out of your league" or that "you're not her type".

Pro-tip: Cougars Talk.

Specifically, they talk to their other mature friends. So, if you hope to make the rounds through the group, keep a cool, classy and confident front. Because, if you don't, you could become the topic of conversation: "Who to avoid".

On the other hand, don't take a rejection for your number to heart because, more often than not, it's not about you! It may be that she's already hooked up with someone else or any other number of reasons. Yes, she's still interested in sex but if you allow rejection to stop you in your tracks, the only person who will be losing out is you. She'll find another interested guy looking for NSA sex for sure.

3. What You Say Matters -- and So Does How You Say It

astonishing mature woman getting interested
Start with a funny pick-up line.

Cheesy pick-up lines are never becoming. If you want her number, be direct and confident because, as much as you both know that she's an "alpha woman", she still needs to see that you can hold your own.

If you're using a pick-up line that is a cliché and the woman you're using them on genuinely falls for you, don't be surprised if she turns out to be incredibly desperate. The cougars that you're looking to bag are the ones who won't respond to cliché pick-up lines unless you use it where you both know you're joking.

Instead, try and tailor your opening line or ice-breaker to her situation or lead with something interesting about yourself that might spark a response from her.

4. Forget About Playing Coy

Be totally up front and don't bother wasting both your and her time by beating around the bush. You can open with a funny pick-up line that will be ironic and you both laugh and roll your eyes at.

Or you can open with a genuine question about her -- be it something you've noticed about her or something that you think is relevant to her. The point here is to engage her attention right away in some way.

5. Bad Boys Need Not Apply

Here's what you need to know when asking for a cougar's number: older women looking for sex are looking for exactly that -- sex.

Sex does not mean drama. Sex does not mean attitude. And sex does not mean a messy past with a present parole officer. Remember, the classiest cougars have the upper hand -- and they know it! But that's how you like it, right?

Remember that younger girls who are sexy and smart are constantly with idiotic guys. This is no surprise. But it's rare to see a mature lady with a So leave the drama with your mama and come strictly dancing - er, that is, for her number.

6. Play it With Foreplay

Capture her attention and scintillate her senses with just the right amount of foreplay. Don't be afraid to engage her mind and ask her questions, rather than just jumping to silly pick-up lines.

This can be witty banter and conversation back and forth in person or over text. It can also be deep and meaningful conversation about intellectual topics that show her your open to learning new things.

An open mind is incredibly important to cougars because it shows her you're not judgmental and this will likely translate to how enthusiastic and willing of a lover you'll be.

7. Embrace the Chase

Cougars don't necessarily do the chasing but they certainly like to watch you chase them. In fact, you should expect a little playful and requisite back and forth. Without this, a cougar could very quickly lose interest -- not because she's into mind games or manipulation but because it will say to her that she doesn't have your attention.

After all, if you don't have the time to focus on her during that "chase" period...who's to say that your attention won't flag in the bedroom?

Remember, she may only want that one thing...but she'll use a variety of other factors to decide if you're going to get her number at all.

8. Let the Right One In

There are, without a doubt, two types of cougars: ones are the prosaic, mythical, smart and sexy creatures you've heard about, with libidos that want to make you go on all night.

Pro-tip: Approach Assertively

You should approach with caution and be quick to recognize and file which kind of cougar you're interacting with. There are cougars who are just plain desperate. They're deeply insecure and usually have a (well-hidden) troubled past. They'll use you and your attention to make them feel better about themselves.

Not only is it not about the sex and not about you in the slightest, she'll also cling on for dear life when you try and move on. The kind of cougar you want to attract are the "alphas" -- these are the women who certainly are on the prowl for sex (and sexual empowerment) but for all the right reasons. She's in it for the sheer carnal act, she's up for anything, she's super sexy and she has no qualms keeping it casual.

sensual brunette lady ready for a date
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