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How to Impress your MILF Lover with your Conversational Skills

The words we say help to keep romances alive but they can ruin sexual chemistry too. When you are dating MILFs, you'll find that they love to talk, and that they appreciate good conversation more than younger girls. Learn how to speak their language with these useful tips.

Young man talking with his MILF lover
She won't take kindly to being reminded of her age

1. Listen and learn

When you get to know cougars, it pays to listen closely to what they say when they are with friends. Even before you hook up, you can learn so much about who they are and the jokes they like from just five minutes of conversation with their fellow MILFs, so pay attention. Research brings results.

2. They've heard it all before, so don't recycle old lines

When it comes to chatting to a MILF, don't automatically reach for your trusty one-liners. MILFs have heard them all, and they will probably give you the brush off if you roll them out again. Try to be original. Complement them, make a joke, but don't use cliches. They might work on younger girls, but cougars won't be impressed.

3. Try to relax and forget the age gap

One mistake that inexperienced MILF-hunters make is becoming wrapped up in the age gap. OK, we know she's 20 years older than you. She knows that too, and she won't take kindly to being reminded of her age. Try to get to know her personality and don't make jokes about being the younger guy on the side.

4. Be confident, but don't act dominant

MILFs are also turned off by younger guys who try to act like their boss. Remember, these women are older than you. They don't want the distraction of power games, and they aren't looking for a guy to tell them what to do. Don't be submissive, but try to act normal and don't force your personality on her. Give her the sense of being in control.

5. Talking about money is always a turn-off

Cougars aren't usually hunting for mountains of cash, fast cars and holidays abroad. In fact, the reverse is often true in the world of sugar mummy dating. These women don't want to see you flashing your cash. They are secure, confident and often successful people, and they tend to focus on emotional and physical prowess, not professional success.

Beautif confident MILF sitting on a couch
These women are secure, confident and often successful

6. Dating MILFs isn't a chance to confess

Sometimes, guys assume that cougars want to hear their life stories. They don't. If you get the temptation to offload your complexes about past relationships, forget about it. No older women want needy guys ruining their social and sexual life.

7. Always be complimentary

PRO TIP: When the conversation is flagging or you've run out of stories to tell, resorting to compliments is always a great idea.

Tell her she's beautiful, or that she has great fashion sense. MILFs love younger guys telling them they look fantastic.

8. Find common ground - there will always be something

Here's another pro-tip from someone who knows: even if you are struggling to find things to talk about, you will have common ground with any MILF. It could be a film, a sports team or a vacation destination, but there will be something both of you adore. The trick is to avoid becoming frustrated when it's hard to find that connection.

9. Remember the vocabulary to avoid

Finally, let's lay out some no-nos. Don't describe her as a MILF or a cougar (unless you do so with delicacy and humor, or she's referred to herself in those terms). Don't use words like babe or honey, and don't swear - at least not until you and her are comfortable together. Eventually you'll discover your common language, just don't make any fatal mistakes right at the start.

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